Ask Minda Honey: X-Rated With A CoWorker?

In a relationship jam? Lemme unstuck your life:

Q: My husband and I are 11 years apart; he is 51, and I am 40. We have been together for 10 years, married for 9. I love this man with my heart and soul, he has been nothing but wonderful and supportive of me since the day we met. However, I have been recently considering having an affair.

The reason for this is simple: In the past two and a half years, we have had sex exactly three times. And each of those three times it has been worse and worse of an experience. I am 95 percent certain he has erectile dysfunction, but he is either scared, or mistrustful, of doctors as he refuses to go for anything that isn’t life threatening (we were in a car accident a year after we got married, and he kept saying that, if the car was still drivable, we should just go home, rather than to the hospital. Thankfully, I didn’t listen as I had a mild concussion, and he eventually had to have physical therapy on an injured leg). I really think that he thinks since sex is off the table for him, it should be for me as well. Well, I have been good this whole time, but ‘helping myself’ only does so much — I need more.

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